I never thought I’d release this information to the world… but yet here I am, about to turn the entire pretentious fitness industry tits up. If enough people read this, then half the trainers will lose half their clients. Why? Because half the reason people want to get in shape is to recover a gap in their self esteem. They want society to accept or praise them. They want to feel more confident etc.

From a trainer’s end, this is invaluable marketing ammo. Lethal, in fact. Not only can I promise significant weight loss, I can promise significant improvements in the general “look” of your body… and who wouldn’t want this? Fuck, I know I would. But here is the real secret. You ready for it?

When it comes to confidence, your mind and body are completely independent of each other. The way you look, dress and act have nothing to do with confidence. And if they do, then it’s based purely on external circumstances. What happens if those externals are taken away? In short, you’re fucked. See, I joke around with my words all the time and people think I’m confident because of the body I’ve achieved.

HELLLL NO.

Every time I get an email saying “FJ, if only I looked like you…” I tell the person that it does not matter. I’d still be me if I was a slob… I just wouldn’t be giving fitness advice. This little revelation is the kind of stuff most trainers don’t have the balls to say (in the fear of losing business) or they’ve simply never bothered to study psychology. I guess this is why I exist.

So if true confidence doesn’t come from external circumstances, where does it come from? In short, it comes from not giving a fuck. And the way to not give a fuck is to separate yourself from self awareness. To achieve freedom from self awareness though… takes a boat load of practice, and here’s why:

From the time you were like 2-3 years old till now, society has put all of this bullshit pressure and expectations on you. You’ve been socialized in a way that is just not beneficial in my opinion. Especially not when it comes to confidence… not even close. So you need to reverse this trend and break down all these layers of nonsense that have been attached to your ass over the years, because underneath, everyone knows and has experienced what it is to not have self awareness.

And here’s how I know – because we were all babies once. Think about it, when a baby is crawling around, it has awareness (the surrounding, senses etc.) but it doesn’t have self-awareness. If a baby bumps into a wall, its aware that it hurts and that you can’t walk through it, but it doesn’t give a shit as to what you think of it. It just gets up, shakes it off and tries something else. Can you imagine what would happen if babies had self-awareness from birth? We’d all be crawling on our asses and undergo massive rug burns. I’m pretty sure Huggies would also be ruling the world.

Self-awareness is the true kryptonite to confidence and we need to get rid of it ASAP. It’s time to be a baby again. It’s time to try new things, take some chances, experience the unknown without caring what effect it has on everyone else… to a certain degree.

Let it be known that getting rid of self awareness does not mean you need to get rid of common sense. Walking down the street, randomly punching someone in the face and pretending not to have self-awareness will land you in jail. But walking down the street in a funny hat because you think it’s cool or going to the gym because you want to stay mean and lean is completely acceptable. In fact, I encourage it.

The rapper T.I summarized this concept perfectly in one of his songs when he says “Unhappy with the riches cuz you’re piss-poor morally”. And it’s the same with fitness. If you wanan lose weight because you think you’ll feel more confident, you’re in for a helluva shock. The instant your weight fluctuates, your confidence will shatter like a dropped wine glass. Confidence is completely independent of your physical state, so get rid of self-awareness. You don’t need it. It’s useless. Be free!

Now if you’ll excuse me, it’s time for me to hit up the gym so I can stay lean and sexy… you know, because “I” want to.

- FitJerk

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