I was looking through my past emails a few days ago from customers, and it became blindly obvious why some succeeded and others just couldn’t seem to hit the mark (keep in mind all of these people received the exact same information). See It’s not that they couldn’t. It’s that they won’t! And that’s the truth.
Why? I duno… it’s beyond me. Could be because they don’t want it bad enough. Could be that they don’t want to put in the work… whatever. But after a few emails back and forth, all I heard was excuses. If they instead just put their fucking heads down and said “ok I’ll do what you say”… their lives would be much better. And I would be less frustrated with their lameness.
But being frustrated and “bitch posting” isn’t what I’m about. I wanted to figure out a way around this and being a diligent mofo that I am, I decided to crack this little absurdity that people go through. Why don’t people do what is necessary to get to where they want to be? Are we THAT comfortable living in pathetic misery that we can’t push ourselves just a little bit to achieve something outstanding? It can’t be true. Well turns out it is…
I was making a list of crap I wanted done or wanted to accomplish in the near future, and as I was looking through it I was muttering to myself:
“ok let’s see what’s realistic on this list… hmm world domination… that’s a bit of a stretch *crosses out*. Bang Megan Fox, hmm I could, but business is more important right now *crosses out*… launch the gold section for book holders… hmm I can’t do that till December…”
*SLAMS DESK*
“Wait a fucking second, why can’t I? I know how to do it, and I know what content is needed and I know how to market it… Is it that I won’t?!”
And that’s when everything shifted. The next time you say “I can’t”… rephrase it into “I won’t”… and it will dawn on you what a lazy, couch potato riding, excuse making dorkface you truly are. (Actually all humans are this way so don’t feel too bad. ya dork!)
It is only after having this shift will you realize that you can pretty much follow through with any number of the whacky ideas you conjure up. What I suggest is, make a list, pick out the important shit that will have a positive impact on your life or business and start. If you can’t start of if you can’t follow through then ask yourself…
“Is it that I can’t… or is it that I won’t do this?”
It is one word, but it makes a helluva difference. I should know… my desk had coffee spilt all over it. Sorry desk, I’ll be gentle next time.
- FitJerk
November 6, 2009
#1
Great post & yes, that one word does make a difference. I sometimes say “I won’t” when it is just not important enough to me. I may want to do “it” BUT if it is just something that I really don’t want to put my all into, I say “I won’t”. Now don’t get me wrong. I do that stupid “I can’t” stuff.. but it is usually not with the workouts…. always the other stuff.
FJ, I know what you are going to say.. so…. save your breath!
I am getting old & meaner than I already was!!!
November 7, 2009
#2
Older, meaner, punchier… Jody you represent a bottle of fine wine.
November 6, 2009
#3
very true. it’s all mental. i used to have mental blocks (i can’t do X or Y) but then i’d be like fuck it, i can do anything. just got to want it and push the limits.
some of my clients need to read this article. like NOW.
you forgot to add on your list: run 10k
November 6, 2009
#4
For your sake, I hope it wasn’t McDonalds pre-banned flaming coffee… otherwise your desk will catch your drift, say “I F ‘ing CAN and WILL” sue your a$$ for millions.
BTW – try and hum this to the tune of old mac donald without laughing…
” I’m a dork, your a dork, every ones a dork, dork! The Fit Jer-erk gets shit done, E-I-E-I-O! ”
End Random Thought.
November 9, 2009
#5
@Matthew
LMFAO I think I just found my jingle for my future videos. All of them will start off that way and I’ll laugh…
… as no one watches them.
November 8, 2009
#6
thanks FJ. i was really inspired by this… even blogged about it. i can, and i will do!
you’re the best!!
November 9, 2009
#7
@ Tra
Yo woman, that shit ain’t never going on the list. Unless you round up hotties at the Playboy mansion with peanut butter.
November 9, 2009
#8
@Cher
Serious? That’s kick ass missy. I’ll go check it out.
December 13, 2009
#9
OK FJ, I can tell you what happened along my road.
I worked out all of my adult life. From 18 to 38 I pushed myself, always trying to be stronger, and of course thinner because all women want that. Right through 3 babies and everything. I was in really good shape. Then all in one fell swoop, my brother died, my mom died, my mother-in -law died (No Grandma’s for my kids), my dog died, a couple of other crap things happened and I lost my mojo.
Twenty pounds later and the weakest I’ve ever been, motivation is hard to come by. I have fat on my arms! I weigh 152 pounds, yuch!
So that’s why I fell of my horse and kept getting knocked back off until I couldn’t climb up anymore. I don’t think it was just that I was a lazy ass, although it has now come to that.
Now, my kids are 10, 12, and 14. They are all athletic and the 12 year old son is particularly interested in fitness, weights, etc. I have read some of your posts to him and my 10 year old, cutting out most of the cursing, of course. (I do leave a little in because it makes them laugh their heads off, but I can’t leave it all in because my 10 year old already asks my things like “What is a douchebag?” and “Why am I getting hair above my wiener?” Can’t he ask his dad these things? )
I’m feeling the need to set a good example. The kids practically grew up at lifetime fitness. I worked in the childcare and worked out there all the time so they were used to a gym. Now I’m trying to get the Chutzpah to go back. Maybe you’ll actually talk me into it:)
Sorry about hijacking your blog. Just thought I”d share. I downloaded your free e-book.
Peace,
Debbie
December 14, 2009
#10
This is something I’ve noticed in my life too… isn’t it fucked how everything bad just seems to happen all at once? Then everything good also seems to happen all at once too?
Quite the odd phenomenon. And I’m glad my ramblings amuse your kids, tell em FJ said “hi” and that a “douchebag” is someone who lacks intelligence, common sense, and general social IQ.
Although you have been through some serious struggles, the fact that you had a serious lifestyle in the past means that you can always bring that passion back. It’s easier to train someone who has trained before than a newbie. It’s easier to deal with a customer who’s already purchased from you than a cold prospect. So I think you’ll bounce back easily.
If anything think of your kids… we can’t have 100% control over when we’ll die or when others will pass away, but we CAN decrease the chances of it happening.
So what I’m gona say is that you need to stack the deck in your favor so your kids will have the highest chance of having you around for as long as humanly possible. Make sense?
Awesome sauce.